me, finally getting a chance to say something I’ve thought about for twelve days straight: oh, hey, that reminds me, funny thing, this just came to mind but
You are doing so well. It may not seem so, but I promise you that you are so incredibly strong.
You are still here and still fighting. And I am so proud of you. Things will get better, and your pain will fade in time. But that doesn’t mean that what you are currently dealing with is any less awful.
It just means that you will make it through this.
Don’t let anyone dismiss your personal victories. You are the one fighting this battle and every challenge you overcome is something worth celebrating.
You have made it this far.
One step in front of the other.
You will make it through this
That is my favorite Sanders Sides quote for a reason. It is so important to hear when you are going through hard times.
A lot of you guys liked the message I posted from last night, so I figured I would post it here if you needed it. ❤
Just in case anyone needs this. Thomas loves you, and I love you.
can someone write this down for me???
I legitimately started crying I didn’t realize how much I need to hear this.
Hey, guess what? You made it through the day [comforting laughter]. What a day it has been, but you made it. Look at that. I – I know that there are a lot of fears out there, and trust me I have fears too, but you know what – you know what I see – I see people … out there, right now banning together. Despite those fears, to fight the fears together. People who are supporting one another … in this time and I think that – that is the beautiful thing to focus on. Courage in the face of fear and now’s the time, more than any, to do that. And to see so many people supporting each other, like this, that is the thing to focus on. That is the love you need to focus on. That shows me that there is – there are things out there to fight for, you guys. It’s a beautiful, beautiful thing. And don’t let – don’t let … this gets you down. If you are scared, that’s because either … you have something to lose or you know someone who might have something to lose, and you’re concerned for them. That’s because you’re a good person. Any right now more than any – ever – we support each other. That is what we do. And I’m seeing that. And that is what we will keep doing. We’re gonna keep fighting – for love and acceptance and representation. I have the utmost faith that we’re going to be OK. We’re going to be OK. [Huge comforting smile] It’s all good, we are going to be OK. We’ll take it one day at a time. I love you. I love you all. All you guys, gals. And non-binary pals. It’s all gonna be good. OK? Alright. Have a good night. See you in the morning [soft chuckle].
I always forget about this and then it comes back onto my dash and reminds me how comforting Thomas really is. He has no idea how much he truly helps. I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t find his channel.
ultimately i think kindness is the most radical thing you can do with your pain and your anger. it’s like, you take everything awful that’s ever been done to you, and you throw it back in the world’s teeth, and you say no, fuck you, i’m not going to take this. you say this is unacceptable. you say that shit stops with me.
humans are fucking terrible and this awful world we live in will fucking kill you but if you are kind, if you are brave and clever and try really hard, you can defy it. you can impose on this bleak and monstrous structure something beautiful. even if it’s temporary. even if it doesn’t heal anything inside you that’s been hurt.
i’m gonna sleep and i’m gonna wake up and i swear by everything in this deadly horrible universe i’m gonna make someone happy.
i’ve seen a number of comments and tags where people feel that they must swallow or repress their anger in order to engage in kindness. that is not at all what i am recommending here. radical kindness is an expression of anger. it is not passive. it is not repressive. it does not require you, in any way, to forgive those that have fucked you up. it does not require you to be quiet.
it just requires that you be kind. viciously. vengefully. you fight back. you plant flowers. give to charity. play games. pet someone’s dog. scream into the dark. paint and write and dance, tell jokes, sing songs, bake cookies. you have been hurt and you don’t have to deny that hurt. you just have to recognize it in other people, and take their hand, and say: no more. enough. fuck this. no more.
have a cookie.
i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine.
i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine.
3. Two good quotes by Kurt Vonnegut: “Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the
winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you’ve
got a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of,
babies-“God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.”
And: “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do
not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your
sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may
disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”
#hopepunk
“Hope is not a lottery ticket you can sit on the sofa and clutch, feeling lucky. It is an axe you break down doors with in an emergency. Hope should shove you out the door, because it will take everything you have to steer the future away from endless war, from the annihilation of the earth’s treasures and the grinding down of the poor and marginal… To hope is to give yourself to the future – and that commitment to the future is what makes the present inhabitable.”
-Rebecca Solnit; Hope in the Dark
I really needed this right now. Thank you
Indeed.
I think it’s important to clarify that radical kindness doesn’t mean you have to be kind to your abusers, or to asshole men in power (like the orange one or his horrible judge). It’s not biting your tongue, smiling, and allowing yourself to be mistreated in order to fulfill some sort of fucked up ideal of “the high road” or whatever. It’s refusing to allow anyone else to be mistreated without comment. It’s extending kindness to other survivors and other folks facing oppression, even when that oppression is different than the kind you face. The folks in charge want us broken down into easily-controlled bite-size chunks. Empathy, compassion, communication, cooperation, collaboration – these are kindness, and they are powerful, radical tools that we can use to help one another heal and to build our communities into something stronger and better.
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